Posts Tagged ‘emotions’

Grand mom and Me!

I have always preferred the company of those elder to me. Not that I don’t gel nicely with youngsters but more often than not it’s the elder brigade I ll be found hanging with. And that includes the ‘oldies’.The world today talks of generation gap and how it has spread up in our society.I don’t deny its existence but I haven’t faced or rather felt its existence ever in my life.In my opinion, it’s mis-communication rather than communication, ego clashes rather than clashes of thoughts that exist.Generation gap is simply a manifestation of impatience and intolerance.we do not have time today to listen to anything apart from what profits us and tolerate anybody challenging the boundaries of our egos.
My grandmom is coming to Delhi-my home (all my uncles and aunts live in various parts of the country,so she visits each of the places at least once a year) and oh no! it’s not the Baghban type scene out here, all her children and grand-children want her to spend time with them so she needs to judiciously divide it between us.And so i passionately await her arrival.Although her stay in Delhi means i need to take out time from my jam-packed schedule to listen to her stories (they include stories of her childhood, my father’s childhood, my childhood which I have listened for a hundred times now.Also the new ones as in-who said what, who did what,on her latest trips plus the anxiety of me growing up and marriage etc.(I am still not 20!) and not to forget the stories of tv soaps that she watches religiously).But still I love her.I lie down in her lap and feel her soft protruding tummy, touch her hand, the skin has lost its elasticity with age, comb her golden-white hair.I just love to be around her.
There are times when she says things that irritates me like my marriage or my getting up late on a sunday morning but it never puts me off. (not that I am trying to prove that I am a super-human) but coz of the fact that I love her and loving means respecting her principles and thoughts as much as I do mine.And then there is nothing left to argue or prove my point.
when she gets too hysterical at times and is not ready to see the changes of modernity, i simply hug her and say “aap wo sab chodiye and ye bataiye uss XYZ serial mein aaj kya hua”? and she like an innocent child forgets what she was saying and then another round of stories begins!
What I want to express is that with love and tolerance all problems can be solved by us. Generation gap is just one of them!

7-Tips to combat deadly ‘depression’ !

Depression is a common disorder in this developing era of ours. Each one of us suffers from depression at some point of their life. so it should not really be a concern for us. Right?

The concern is not depression.However, the figures that are getting attached to it surely are. Do u know that depression is the world’s most common disorder affecting more than 340 million people in the world today? do u also know the fact that The World Health Organisation (WHO) has predicted that by2020, depression will be the second biggest health problem world-wide and leading cause of disability and death world-wide, second only to heart disease?

these and many more figures are alarming.!

Depression basically is a syndrome that reflects the sadness or grief beyond a certain level. That is to say , when grief exceeds the normal levels and duration it happens to be referred to as depression. Now the 1st thing we need to understand is that depression is different from stress. Stress is the inappropriateness of living beings to respond normally to physical or mental threats.Which means that stress is actually a manifestation of depression , chronic or maybe acute stress can lead to depression in some cases. (read some , not all).

As far as the chronic cases are concerned, more often than not a professionally qualified doctor is required to cure it with the help of therapies and medications but we can of course tackle the minor ones without popping those pills too!

so here are my (self tested and tried)  7-tips to combat depression:

1) NOTHING IS FOREVER and CHANGE IS CONSTANT – This seems to be two different things (may appear to depress an already depressed soul too) but ‘believing’ them is the first step to get the hold on yourself back!

2) PLAY WITH KIDS – when I suffered from depression, my 7-year-old brother came to my rescue. Believe me, children are the best ‘anti-depressant’ drugs. Around these little angels I bet you wont have a dull moment.

Kids are the best 'anti-depressant' drugs!

 

3) SELF HELP BOOKS – Depression brings in isolation in almost all cases, so books being man’s best ‘inanimate’ friends surely do help.

Chicken soup series is a popular and highly-read self help books.

 

4) KEEPING A JOURNAL- This is one of my personal favourite and ‘quick help’ tip! When you write you not just vent out your emotions but give way to positive emotions, its like give and take phenomenon. Plus, this journal acts as a motivation to let go many small things afterwards. coz you know you have been through harder times and this is just a similar phase.

Write to Vent out your feelings.

 

5) DANCING/COOKING/EMBROIDERY – Any thing that gives you a sense of worth and respect for your own self  is a big yes!

6) RECEIVE LOVE- Stop isolating yourself!  Give your inner self the love it deserves and desires. It could be heading out to a spa or cutting yourself a slice a your favourite cake or mom’s lap..just go for it!

7) LASTLY, WALKING – when you are sitting around and nothing seems to work, STOP THE ANALYSIS and start walking down to the ice-cream shop or your neighbourhood park.

DENY THE DESIRE TO DEPRESS YOURSELF 🙂 good luck!

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